To Get Happier, Focus on What Makes You Miserable

Focus on the bad

Interesting article which references Randy Paterson’s book  How to Be Miserable:  40 Strategies You Already Use.  This book offers an interesting counterpoint to our national happiness obsession:  Focus on the bad.

“If we can accept distressing feelings for what they are — part of the normal flow of human emotion —then, paradoxically, we will be less distressed. Our distress comes not from experiencing those emotions, but from our reaction to them as being unacceptable or abnormal.”

Don’t Complain, CREATE

This is a great little video of Tina Roth Eisenberg, the founder of SwissMiss, Tattly, CreativeMornings and Studiomates  found on 99U.

She has come up with some “rules” that I’ve translated into 5 questions:

1)  What’s my super power?

2)  What can I  do to make something I’m complaining about better?

3)  Are the people I’m hanging out with inspiring me?

4)  How can I add more fun and play in my life?

5)  Am I pushing myself to be the best version of myself?